Hey friends, Teresa here! Consider today’s article a “Choose Your Own Adventure” of sorts, because we’re sharing it in two parts. Feel free and read whichever you think would impact you the most as we chat about Morning Routine
The first section is written by Erin, one of our & Gal Leaders, as she shares her struggles and successes in getting her day started well (sometimes we need a #metoo story so we’re reminded we’re not alone).
The second section is for anyone who simply desires the quick and gritty info. The mom who wants the cursory a + b = c to help her mornings flow better.
Enjoy choosing your own adventure! If you’re like me though, you’ll end up reading all the things because you need all the help you can get. (raise hand here)
Maintaining the forward momentum can be challenging at times. However, remembering that you will be able to gain time for yourself, less stressful mornings, and the entire environment in the home becomes peaceful is worth it.
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What do your mornings look like?
Do you find your mornings stressful, full of chaos, and promising to make tomorrow better?
Or are they calm, peaceful, and focused?
Setting up a Consistent Morning Routine can create the most beautiful mornings, glorious afternoons, and restful evenings. You take the stress away and free up time to move toward the goals and achievements penciled in for the day.
Many years ago, I was a morning person and woke up early for work, and by early I mean 3:30am, because coffee addicts are in line at 4:30am * wink *. On the days I wasn’t working at Starbucks, I rose by 7 and was ready to get my day started. I thrived in this same schedule for six years. As the years have flown by though, I have become a Tired Mom.
And by that, I mean neither a morning person nor a night owl.
Two kids and a couple employment changes later, I am an alarm clock that wakes up, works, checks an item or two off a list, and goes to bed. Sound familiar? Pretty robotic. Ugh.
My schedule changed drastically when baby number two arrived and ohhhhhh girl, did she set a new tone for the family. School drop off and pick up, bringing an infant to work every day (which involved naps and feedings, as well as time to interact and play with baby), dinner and chores, and ending each day with our bedtime routine. I’m not exactly sure how I managed to work from home at night or simply bathe, but I did.
I was exhausted and quite honestly, am still quite exhausted!
Mom and wife are two roles I have always wanted and would not change for anything.
But my stress and anxiety began to increase and cause internal turmoil.
Turmoil that would often come off as short and abrasive, indirectly toward my people, in turn heightening the exhaustion and stress. Talk about a cycle, so normal for many of us yet and completely uncomfortable and painful.
Is this really what the essence of motherhood is? When do I get to do anything for myself or what I love?
I needed change and quick!
My breaking point hit hard and quite honestly ladies, it can still knock me off my feet and shake me up from time to time.
I have struggled to ask for help and truthfully, am still working on it every day, and in every situation. Why is it so hard to ask for help?
Why is it difficult to look at my sweet husband, the father of my children, and say “I need some help with_______________________”??
Moms can do it all, and we can do it all the time.
That’s what we tell ourselves, right?
But boy are we wrong.
I began to set my pride aside and embrace the support of my husband. Sounds simple, right? Well, for this Enneagram Two, not so much. I do a great job at loving and helping others through life, however, recognizing that my ‘I can do it all’ mentality is not what my family needs. What they DO need? Consistent mornings, consistent schedules, and a mom that’s not stressed out all the time.
We decided to sit down and really set forth a basic daily agenda. Initially, he would help me with simple tasks: getting kids dressed, driving them to school, or something as easy as daycare. As the months went by, we found that penciling in two, sometimes three, mornings a week, which he would take over the entire morning routine, was a game changer.
Consistency is key.
Consistently doing small things will lead to great results. Working daily on following through with routine and the things that matter most, create a progressive movement for you and the family.
Momentum that feels successful and prevailing, graduates from a penciled in task to a naturally recurring habit.
I am still in progress, so no I am not a Morning Routine Professional, but I can attest to the glory of progress. Heading to the office early a few days a week has led me to asking myself what else I am not finding time for. Recently the answer has been my health and gym time. Next up, earlier mornings for more self-care time.
What is it that you would like to add to your routine that sits on the back burner?
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Picture perfect routine comprises of what, exactly?
I took that question to some mamas and found the answers were near identical.
Planning the night before, if not for the week
Tamil, a mother to three darling divas, has learned the art to routine and keeping it simple. She stated that the following is the basic nightly schedule followed to ensure a smooth-sailing morning.
1. Double check the alarms to ensure everyone wakes up on time.
2. Pre-plan the night before by making lunches, reassuring all books are in book bags and outfits are chosen and laid out.
3. Positive morning attitude.
Knowing the fluidity allows for Tamil and the girls to arrive on time to both school and work.
Improved morning routine sets the entire day up for success and lasting change in life.
Keep cheering each other on and loving on the Working Mamas around you. We need support in everything, including morning routine!!
**For more on this topic, head to THIS POST on How Time Blocking Changed my Life.
WRITTEN BY ERIN PERSON: BAKER, DESIGNER, MANAGER