Beating The Working At Home Guilt

I leave for work most days the same time as my kids leave for school. They are old enough now to fix their own breakfasts and pack lunches, so our mornings flow fairly well. Okay-most days they flow. Then there are the days my 10-year-old decides to take a 45 minute shower, but I digress.

Depending on the day, I pick them up after practices and we head home for dinner, which we always do together. It is literally the only thing in parenting that I am consistent with. No matter if it is bowls of cereal or the nights where we clean out the fridge, for at least fifteen to twenty minutes every day, we speak to one another. One of the only mom hacks I have is Clean Out the Fridge Night. At least one night a week we pull out all of the leftovers, heat up the containers and I pass out forks. We stand around our kitchen island and fork fight over the last bit of spaghetti or the remaining meatloaf. It’s fun, it reduces our food waste and it cleans out our fridge.

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There you go, you now have the secret sauce to the only beneficial tip I know about raising kids.

On the other nights of the week, the rules are different.

There are no cell phones allowed at the table, usually the TV is turned off unless it is something we all are pressed to watch together and we get to discuss our individual days.

And then we disband.

The kids head off to shower, lay out their clothes and projects for the next day and finalize homework. And  I open my laptop. Monday through Friday, this our routine.

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Now some days are different and at least once a week we go out to eat because I have forgotten to meal plan appropriately. Those are the dinners we actually have more interactions across the table from one another, mainly because I have trapped them into a booth to talk.

Then there are other days where practice is cancelled or my work load is not pressing and we play games or watch movies.

But at this stage of parenting a teen and pre-teen, our weekends are for fun and our weeks are for getting through.

I would like to tell you that only have a brief moment with my children each day depresses me. However, it is all we can do with the lives we are leading and the time we spend is good. They are active and have homework and I almost always have a daily project to finish or a court date to prepare for the following day.

I have a no work on Saturday rule. Not for any other reason than soccer for both kids is almost entirely year round and Saturdays are game days. We are bustling from field to field, cities to varying States and I couldn’t work even if I had to. It also is an entire day that my kids know is devoted to them. You have to find a pattern that works for you, your business and your family.

The worst advice I’ve ever been given in business is that you have to have a work life balance.

There is no such thing.

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Sometimes, your business requires your family to make sacrifices. And then at other times, the laptops are closed and business can wait. The ebb and flow of that will change depending on your schedule, your family’s obligations and the needs of your business.

You cannot beat yourself up for the nights that you miss family game night doing expense reports. Because there will be days that you can move everything around to make it to your 3rd grader’s science project presentation. Giving yourself the freedom to know that a balancing act is not feasible, will free up space in your head and heat to think of something other than guilt.

You love your job…or maybe you need the income from it. And you most certainly love your kids. And that’s ok. In fact, that’s GREAT! The most important thing to remember though is wherever you are, be all there. When you’re home, make sure you’re looking into you family’s eyeballs. Ask the questions, be the encouragement.

And when you’re at work, remind yourself not only how grateful you are to have one, but also what an incredible blessing it is that your children are taken care of while you’re hustling. Whether they’re at school, with a nanny, or daycare…they’re learning so much about playing with others, independence, seeing mom work hard, and thrive in a multitude of ways… all because you have given them the opportunity to.

Mom Guilt? Push it away and pass out those forks.

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3 Tricks to Help You Look Rested

I hate to admit it, but for years, I would literally be asked these things on a daily basis:

“Are you tired?”

“Did you know you have mascara under your eyes?”

“Do you want to borrow my concealer?”

I may have laughed and rolled my eyes at their comments, but would inwardly cringe when friends and co-workers brought up how absolutely and completely exhausted I appeared. Part of me wanted to respond with some sort of justification like, “If you only knew how much I do and what my daily schedule looks like”…but I don’t really want to wear my busyness like a badge of honor. Because it isn’t one.

Instead, I’ve found a few tricks that help me look more rested (though let’s be honest, actually GETTING rest should be at the top of the list):

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I’ve realized a routine to not look so tired (zombie, anyone??) was absolutely essential. Yes, I needed to give myself grace for a busy schedule or a forgetful morning when I’m running late, but I had to take action and make this a new habit. The necessity wasn’t simply because I wanted to look better and stop having people comment on my physical appearance, but I realized this presented myself in a way that seemed like I was running myself ragged and unable to keep my life together. Though that’s obviously false, the appearance of it isn’t good for running a business.


  1. Drink TONS of water

Yes, I’m seriously starting with something so simple! This has not only assisted in the health of my skin, but in my overall health. It was a struggle at first, but I currently drink up to 6 bottles a day and instead of a coffee cup, a bottle of water takes up residence upon my desk. In fact, if you sneak a peek inside my bag, you’ll find a big container inside there, too.

Coffee (which is actually dehydrating) and other beverages are very tempting at times, but I’ve realized that if I actually carry a water bottle around with me, I’ll be less tempted to drink anything else. Add a squeeze of lemon if you like, and you’re good to go!

My current favorites:

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2. Waterproof Mascara

It had never occurred to me to use waterproof mascara outside of the pool (actually…believe it or not, I have never used it there either). I doubt I will never go back to the regular stuff though because I no longer have mid-day raccoon eyes. What an easy and immediate fix! My under eyes have never been so clear!

My current favorite:

Too Faced: Better than Sex (Waterproof) Mascara

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3. Science

Best of all, I tapped into science and have been obsessed with microneedling. Curious what that is? (Don’t freak out…it’s incredible for your skin!) In a nutshell, it’s all about maximum productivity for your skincare!! By rolling the regeneration tool onto your face and décolletage, your favorite skincare is able to get down into the depth that helps regenerate the collagen of your skin (confused? Watch this video from Beauty Bio’s IG Stories). Seriously…it’s a game-changer!

My current favorites:

Glo Pro | Or this less-expensive one via Amazon

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With these three simple steps towards change, I no longer cringe over comments about how tired I appear (yay!). And by looking rested and healthy, I put a better foot forward with clients… as well as with my confidence.


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